happiness around the world

Thursday, May 11, 2006

How difficult. なんて難しいの...

How difficult to tell one's feeling... Especially among people who don't have same background, and live far away... It's really hard to communicate just via email and MSN stuff. I had some trouble with my friends who live in Germany. It's caused by misunderstandings and cultural differences, I guess.
Because I liked them, I tended to follow their opinions. Harmony is considered to be very important among Japanese people. I don't know if it's good or not, but I naturally got it.
Through the trouble, though, I found out that sometimes it made such a mess. If I would have been more decisive and have my opinion, we hadn't had such troubles.
Now I'm trying to fix the problems. I told my feeling to her as honest as possible, and I believe that she's going to understand me...

ドイツの子達とちょっとしたトラブルが起こってしまった。私は正直彼女達がいかに率直に物を言うか、感謝して聞いたり、時には戸惑ったりしている。「協調」を大事にしてきた日本文化の中で、特に相手が自分に何かをしてくれるとそれにNOと言えないのは大概の日本人ではないかと思う。
それでも私がもっと自分の意見を持って提案していたならば、そんなに問題は起こらなかっただろうと反省している。どうか彼女に伝わりますように。

Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Hiking 山登り

We climbed up Mt Takao yesterday. I wanna say the weather was perfect, but it actually wasn't. It rained from time to time, and all foggy. We were supposed to see Mt Fuji, Yokohama, and Tokyo tower from halfway of the mountain, but we couldn't.
Still the sound of drops on the leaves were romantic, and the views that were all foggy were misterious. I liked it! It was a fun day :)

昨日はexcursionで高尾山に登りに行きました。GWずっと晴れてたのに昨日だけ雨…(泣 でも雨の雫が葉にあたる音とか、霧がかった景色はまた違った美しさを出していました。皆も楽しんでくれてたようだし。山登り、久しぶりで楽しかったです。:)

Sunday, May 07, 2006

Marriage of Japanese women 日本の女性の結婚

I saw my friend from Switzerland today. We talked for about 4 hours including a lots of cultural differences she felt. One of the points we found interesting was how different Japanese women think about their marriage. I didn't realize how much pressure we've had concerning marriage until she told me.
She said that she could marry whenever she wants in Switzerland; either 20years-old or 40years-old, depend on her decision. I could say that here in Japan too, but I'd say we are more influenced by our surroundings, such as our parents, friends and co-workers. We naturally feel that we should marry before 30 or 35 at least. Japanese parents expect their daughters (or son sometimes) to marry soon when they become late 20s. In fact I have to admit that there are some couples who don't really love each other, but they will marry because of that custom!!
It would be a lot of pressure for her, my Swiss friend said. I never thought of that. Naturally I thought that I might marry before 30, and have a baby.
I don't know. Sometimes when we stay same place, we cannot notice something different and take it for granted. That's why I love to talk to internationals. They always open my eyes and give me a different perspectives.

今日スイスの友達と話していて、新しいことに気づいた。日本人女性の結婚観について。
私達は20代後半になると自然と結婚しなきゃと思い始める。でもそれはスイスではありえないこと。彼女は、スイスでは20歳でも40歳でも結婚したい時にするわけで、誰からも何も言われない。
ここ日本では親や友達、同僚などが口には出さなくともそれとなくほのめかしてきたり、そんな雰囲気があったり。
でも、彼女に言われるまで気づかなかった!考えてみれば、日本人はかなり回りに流される感が強いかも。。。 だから私は皆と話すのが大好き!彼らは私の目を開かせてくれるし、いつも私に新しい発見をさせてくれるから。

Friday, May 05, 2006

Going to Germany!!! ドイツに行きます!!

You know how excited I am?!?! I'm going to visit Germany this summer!! My sweet friends in Germany invited me and made a wonderful tour around Europe with me! I cannot wait...I cannot thank them enough. I'm so happy to have met them through my work. They are so sweet and they love Japan. We talked a lot while they were here and became good friends.  :)
It feels so nice that I have real friends on the other side of the world as well as sweet friends in U.S. I thank all of my friends.
Anyway I'm planning to go to Europe from the middle of August till the end of September. It would be nice weather over there, you know I love summer! I couldn't visit Europe since I'm sensitive to cold... ;) I will travel Amsterdam, Bonn, Berlin, Rome, Vienna, and Paris!!! I've never been to Europe, how wonderful it would be!!

今年の夏、ドイツとヨーロッパに旅行しに行くことになりました!!本当に楽しみで楽しみで。今働いてる会社で出会ったドイツの友達が招待してくれて、ドイツに行った後も一緒にヨーロッパを旅行して回ることになりました。信じられないくらい嬉しいよ。ヨーロッパには行ったことがないから、不安なことも多いけど、友達と一緒なら大丈夫だよね?♪
感謝してもしきれません。小さな日本で小さな私と出会って、友達になってくれて、ヨーロッパに招待までしてくれて。ありがとう、本当に楽しみです!! :)