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Sunday, May 07, 2006

Marriage of Japanese women 日本の女性の結婚

I saw my friend from Switzerland today. We talked for about 4 hours including a lots of cultural differences she felt. One of the points we found interesting was how different Japanese women think about their marriage. I didn't realize how much pressure we've had concerning marriage until she told me.
She said that she could marry whenever she wants in Switzerland; either 20years-old or 40years-old, depend on her decision. I could say that here in Japan too, but I'd say we are more influenced by our surroundings, such as our parents, friends and co-workers. We naturally feel that we should marry before 30 or 35 at least. Japanese parents expect their daughters (or son sometimes) to marry soon when they become late 20s. In fact I have to admit that there are some couples who don't really love each other, but they will marry because of that custom!!
It would be a lot of pressure for her, my Swiss friend said. I never thought of that. Naturally I thought that I might marry before 30, and have a baby.
I don't know. Sometimes when we stay same place, we cannot notice something different and take it for granted. That's why I love to talk to internationals. They always open my eyes and give me a different perspectives.

今日スイスの友達と話していて、新しいことに気づいた。日本人女性の結婚観について。
私達は20代後半になると自然と結婚しなきゃと思い始める。でもそれはスイスではありえないこと。彼女は、スイスでは20歳でも40歳でも結婚したい時にするわけで、誰からも何も言われない。
ここ日本では親や友達、同僚などが口には出さなくともそれとなくほのめかしてきたり、そんな雰囲気があったり。
でも、彼女に言われるまで気づかなかった!考えてみれば、日本人はかなり回りに流される感が強いかも。。。 だから私は皆と話すのが大好き!彼らは私の目を開かせてくれるし、いつも私に新しい発見をさせてくれるから。

2 Comments:

  • At 11:27 AM, Anonymous Matthew Ashcroft said…

    If I ever feeled pressured by friends family and co-workers to get married. Man would I be mad. That is one of the most important decisions a person makes in their life. I would hate to be stuck with someone I didn't much like for the rest of my days... boo!

     
  • At 12:22 AM, Blogger reiko said…

    Dear matt,

    Yeah, me too, I'd like to believe that I never marry unless I really love the partner. But according to my friend who is 30, sometimes she is influenced by circumstances... I don't know... ;(

     

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